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BSF Jawan Refuses Dowry Accepts Rs. 11 with Coconut as Token

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Updated on 30 June, 2020

BSF Jawan Refuses Dowry at His Wedding

A BSF constable refused to accept Rs. 11 Lakh as dowry in Jaipur. Instead, the security force personnel accepted ₹11 and coconut as a token from the bride’s parents. 

Demanding and taking dowry is still common practise in our country even though there are strict laws against it. But there are some who stand against the age-old custom of dowry even when it comes to their wedding.  

In a progressive step, Jitendra Singh, a Border Security Force (BSF) constable in Jaipur, refused to accept dowry worth ₹11 lakh at his wedding offered by the bride’s parents. The wedding took place in Amba Bari, a locality of Jaipur on Saturday (November 9). The defence personnel took ₹11 with coconut as a token instead. The security force personnel said that the bride is more valuable than money, his educated wire is enough for the family; he added further.

By doing this, he has definitely set an example against the evil custom of dowry for others. The parents of the bride were shocked to know this. Soon after, tears of joy started rolling down the cheeks after learning about the benign gesture of the armed forces trooper.  

Govind Singh Shekhawat (59), father of Chanchal Shekhawat, the bride, said, “Initially, I was shocked thinking that either the family of the groom wanted more money or they were upset about the marriage arrangements. Later we came to know that the groom’s family was against taking the dowry”.

The jawan Jitendra Singh was married to Chanchal Shekhawat in a ceremony in Jaipur on Saturday. 

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Jitendra, currently posted in Chattisgarh said “the day I was told that my wife-to-be has done LLB and LLM and is also pursuing a PhD, I thought she is good for my family and me. That day, I made up my mind refuse dowry and my family thought we would tell this decision to my would-be in-laws on the wedding day itself”. 

“Chanchal, the bride, is now is preparing for Rajasthan Judicial Service(RJS), and if she becomes a magistrate, this would be more valuable for our family than money,” said the armed force personnel. 

Rajendra Singh, the groom’s father, said, “She is well-educated, and thus we will further facilitate her in her higher studies.”

Chanchal, the bride, has full support from her family and to-be-husband for her higher education. The cases of women burnt alive for dowry by husband and in-laws are reported every year in India. At the time when hundreds of women are given divorce for the same reason, the heartwarming story of this BSF constable is a life lesson for all.

While people like Govind Singh and Jitendra are setting an example for a society dominated by customs and traditions, dowry and honour killings in some parts of the country continue to bring disgrace to society. 

This BSF agent and his family set an example against the evil custom of dowry after clearly rejected the cash being offered to them at the wedding. Even though the Indian Penal Code states that dowry is a punishable offence with a minimum of 7 years of imprisonment, it is still practised in various parts of the country. Misogyny and patriarchy, have dominated Indian traditions and customs for long. But fortunately a few are trying to break the norms and set a new path of equality.

People like Jitendra make society a better place.

Say no to dowry!

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